My son is a curious kid. When he first started talking, his favorite word, like many kiddos, was WHY? Whatever I told him, he would want to know "why"? and so many times, I had no idea! "That's a great question for daddy" was a response I used more often than I wanted, but I just couldn't bear for him to know that I don't have a clue how condensation works.
It's funny how quickly your elementary education flies out the window after you have kids. I seriously might need to take an a crash course in math and science before Charlie starts bringing home homework!
But now that he's on the way to 4, his questions have gotten more challenging, and less because I don't know the answers, and more because I want to be so careful with how I respond to him.
Lately he's been asking a lot about death. Who dies, when do you die and what happens when you die? And I'm so torn between protecting my sweet, innocent little boy from such dark topics, and wanting to educate him in a meaningful and digestible way about things that are very real and important.
My approach, which is still a work in progress, is to explain things simply but honestly. And to make sure I use words he can relate to, which often requires that I speak more concretely than I am accustomed to. I found this tip, from the Child Development Institute really helpful:
"Using concrete and familiar examples may help. For example, death may be made more clear by explaining it in terms of the absence of familiar life functions – when people die they do not breathe, eat, talk, think, or feel any more; when dogs die they do not bark or run any more; dead flowers do not grow or bloom any more."
So I turn to you wise mamas, as the best advice I usually get is from moms experiencing the same things that I am . How do you talk about death and dying with your little ones?
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