A few weeks ago the topic of "date night" came up in one of our Momidarity sessions, and we all agreed that spending time with your partner without your kids present, is important for both your sanity and the relationship. It's not that we don't know it's good for us, but can we talk about how hard it can be to make it happen? Especially on a regular basis?
In a perfect scenario, we'd have a lovely date night scheduled every Saturday night. We'd unwind, eat good food, drink lots of wine, and talk about current events. In reality though, we'd attempt to dress up and put makeup on while our kids are literally hanging on us, we would run, sneak out, or bribe our kids so we can leave the house unscathed, we'd stress about how much we were paying the babysitter to sit on the couch and watch Netflix, we'd spend the entire meal talking about our kids, and then we'd skip the nightcap since getting a good night sleep without a hangover in the morning is more important these days.
Date night in theory is great, but in practice, it can be really hard. And if you don't go out often, there is SO MUCH PRESSURE put on that night that I often find myself disappointed in the end.
This exact topic recently came up in one of our Momidarity groups, and one mom told us about how she and her husband recently had a "day date" where they dropped their daughter off at daycare and spent the day together. And they had a blast! They were relatively well rested for the date and they may or may not have had a few daytime drinks and danced around the kitchen. It sounded AMAZING and so much better than a high pressure date night.
Tony and I have done something similar, and it works so well. Since both of our kids are in daycare for 8 hours a day, a few times a year we will take a vacation day and spend the day together doing anything from lounging around the house watching TV and taking naps, to venturing around in the city. Here we are at our most recent day date at 8:30am drinking our faces off at a diner downtown. We had 8 hours to sober up, so naturally we started early. See, we're very responsible.
What I love about daycare day dates is that for me, I have more energy during the day, I don't stress over whether or not my kids are safe and well cared for, and they give me and Tony an opportunity to reconnect and reset.
If you can swing it, I highly recommend making daycare day dates a priority at least once a season. Also Bloody Marys always taste better before noon.