I'm sorry to disappoint, but the advice I'm about to give you is not going to make your kid sleep through the night. But I do hope it will help you as a parent survive what I believe to be one of the hardest parts of new parenthood. Sleep deprivation.
As I write this, we happen to be in one of those shitty sleep phases. Just when you start to feel human again, because you're getting a full six straight hours of sleep at night, those adorable little devils decide to throw you off your game and start waking up for no apparent reason. Why does my baby have it out for me???
Now first kid Jenny would be STRESSED. THE F. OUT. I would spend countless hours on Google trying to figure out if it's a sleep regression, teething, one of "wonder weeks" or possibly all three combined. I'm not kidding when I tell you I once Googled "Can you die from sleep deprivation". And just when I was ready to completely lose it, things changed, and I was sleeping again. Not "before kids" kind of sleeping, but getting enough rest to function.
But second kid Jenny has learned from first kid Jenny, and she has a new approach to the sleep situation, that for now seems to be working. My brilliant solution?
The simple change of mindset, the act of just accepting that this is a temporary (albeit crappy) phase, and knowing that like everything else, it will pass, has done wonders for my mental health.
Because acceptance means I've stopped wasting so much time and energy trying to fix it, I've quit beating myself up over whether or not I'm doing something wrong, or creating bad "sleep associations" by sticking my boob in Lucy's mouth every time she wakes up. And most importantly, I'm not letting whether my kid sleeps through the night or not, totally dictate my mood the next day. Yes, I'm tired. But that is why coffee and diet coke are so delicious. And yes, I'm not in a physical space to run a 5k, but let's get real, I don't really want to do that anyway. I have survived this before, and I will survive this again. It's as simple as that.
So if you're in this phase right now mom, first, I'm sorry. It sucks. There is no dancing around that. But I also promise it won't last forever and there is hopefully some solace in just knowing that.
On a more serious note, if you're dealing with a baby that has never slept well, and you are considering sleep training, we had a great experience with The Sleep Easy Solution. We did it with both Charlie and Lucy, and with the exception of these weird sleep phases, it has worked wonders for us!