The topic of bedtime often comes up in our Momidarity groups. Questions like "what time does your toddler go to bed" and "what does your bedtime routine consist of" are common questions in the group, and I always find it so helpful to learn about what works for other families.
So talk to me moms about your toddlers' bedtime routines, because sometimes I feel like ours has gotten out of control.
It started off totally manageable, with maybe one or two books, a kiss and good night, and off to dreamland.
But then when Charlie turned two we moved him to a bed, and suddenly the routine began to escalate. Two books became three, three books became four, the kiss then needed to be followed up by a back rub. Then a series of important questions like "Where does Batman live?" and "Why do fish swim?" needed to be answered. And then the demands would begin. Conveniently my three year old who could barely finish his chicken nugget at dinner is now staaaarving. He needs food now or "he might die". And then "what does it mean when you die"? And now he's no longer tired. He needs to pee, and he also needs a glass of water. And he suddenly must have that random stuffed animal he hasn't used in months,
Usually Tony puts Charlie to bed, so he gets to entertain these crazy requests. Eventually he leaves the room, but now we have a new "addendum" to the routine, where mom has to come in and tell "a story in my head". This is a non-book story that requires every last ounce of my imagination.
I'll be honest, this is one of my favorite parts of the night. Partly because I know that the end is near, I can almost smell the silence, the alone time, and the hour or two where no child will be calling my name, hanging on me, or requiring the making of or cleaning up of food. But I also love this time because this is our time to cuddle, and boy does my little guy love a good cuddle. In fact, his favorite thing to do is have me lie next to him and he puts his face right up against my face, and I sometimes wish I could freeze time during those moments. I then make up some ridiculous story, always with a good moral and happy ending, and another kiss goodnight. And we're done.
But the whole process takes about 45 minutes, and sometimes I wonder if this is excessive? So share with us moms, what's your kids bedtime routine like? Do you read together? Do you cuddle? Do you make several trips to the bathroom? Do you solve complex mathematical equations? Indulge us.
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